You’ve heard all of those reassuring words, “I am here for you,” or might have said the same to a friend or family, but what does that truly mean? And how can we be more helpful and reach out in a way that makes a real difference?
Let’s face it; life can be tough, and mental health struggles are a part of the human experience. It is rather difficult to see the people we love go through a tough time. Sometimes, all someone needs is a listening ear and a shoulder to lean on. So, how can you make your, “I am here for you, really”, helpful?
Active Listening:
When someone opens up about their mental health, the first step is to be an active listener. Put away your phone, turn off the TV, and give them your undivided attention. You would be surprised to know that this can be such a game-changer for them. Let them speak without interruption. Sometimes, just talking about their feelings can provide immense relief.
Choose Empathy, Not Sympathy:
Empathy is the magic ingredient here. Remember, it’s always helpful to try and understand their feelings from their perspective, rather than just sympathising. Saying, “I can imagine how difficult this must be for you,” can sometimes be more helpful than saying that you feel sorry.
Steer Away From Judgement:
It’s easy to form judgments, but in these moments, it can be very helpful to put your preconceptions aside. Mental health struggles are incredibly complex, and it’s okay to not be able to understand them fully. But being open and accepting can be a major support to your close ones.
Yes to Support, Not to Solutions:
As humans it’s natural to want to solve problems, but sometimes, people just need someone to lean on and not be led. Instead of offering solutions right away, ask, “How can I support you?” This shifts the spotlight on their needs and preferences rather than the problems they are going through.
Check-In Regularly:
It’s not a one-time deal. If you want to support someone then checking on them regularly goes a long way. A simple message or a quick call can make a world of difference. Consistency shows that you genuinely care.
Encourage Professional Help:
While you can provide essential support, remember that you’re not a substitute for professional help. Encourage them to seek therapy or counselling if needed. RytLife offers expert mental health services tailored for such needs. Offer to help them find resources or accompany them to appointments if they’re comfortable with that.
Patience goes a long way:
Healing takes time, and recovery isn’t always linear. Be patient with their progress and setbacks. Your unwavering support can be a lifeline during tough times.
In a world that sometimes feels disconnected, being truly there for someone during their mental health problem is an act of kindness that truly matters. It’s about creating a safe space for them to be vulnerable, to share their struggles, and to feel validated.
So, the next time you say, “I am here for you” let it be more than just words. Let it be a genuine attempt to stand by someone through the ups and downs of their journey.
